Meghan Markle, the Duchess of Sussex, has come forward with bravery to share the intimate details of her story of miscarriage and grief.
It was a July morning that began as ordinarily as any other day: Make breakfast. Feed the dogs. Take vitamins. Find that missing sock. Pick up the rogue crayon that rolled under the table. Throw my hair in a ponytail before getting my son from his crib.
After changing his diaper, I felt a sharp cramp. I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right.
I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second.
Through her tale of grief she is encouraging everyone to ask themselves and others this simple yet moving question;
“Are you okay?”
The loss of a baby or child is an almost unbearable pain that so many experience and so few discuss.
“In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have suffered from miscarriage. Yet despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo. It is riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning,” Meghan writes in her essay detailing her experience.
The “taboo” of speaking about miscarriage is a real thing. It is difficult to open up about something that has caused such distress. It is in these times of struggle that we must truly look into each others eyes and ask, “Are you okay?”
“When people ask how any of us are doing, and when they really listen to the answer, with an open heart and mind, the load of grief often becomes lighter — for all of us. In being invited to share our pain, together we take the first steps toward healing.”
The blinding pain after a loss leaves you wondering- what do I do? Where do I begin? How do I find the healing way forward?
Right here and now I would like to offer you a helping hand and a guided path toward meaning, peace and purpose.
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